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Do you have problems disciplining your ODD teenager in your home? The number one parenting tool that works for everyone is consequences. That’s right, you set out limits for your children and then follow up with consequences when the limit is broken.

But consequences don’t work, you say. My kids just don’t seem to care.

Well, maybe your consequences are not effective consequences. Maybe the results of breaking a boundary is really just a punishment. And punishments don’t work. Punishments cause resentment in the child and do nothing to change behavior.

Ask yourself, am I just punishing my child? It’s easy to understand the difference. A consequence must have a learning portion to it. It must be connected to the offence that your child did wrong.

For example, if your son loses your cell phone, don’t make his nightly curfew earlier. There’s no connection between the cell phone and his curfew and this would be a punishment. A correct consequence would be restricted use of the cell phone in the future, or even that he work to help you pay for a replacement cell phone.

On the other hand, maybe your consequences are effective, but your son still doesn’t seem to care. Maybe your consequence to spend an hour in his room is ineffective because he has a book to read for school and had already planned to spend time in his room. Or maybe losing his driving privileges is ineffective because he plans to be away for the weekend.

You need to understand that a consequence that works once might not be effective another time. Learn to judge your son’s reactions and change his consequences accordingly.

Again, your son might not seem to care because he has learned to control his reactions. So while his outer facade shows indifference, he really does fret about his consequence. Don’t be fooled by his uncaring attitude. If this is the case he will probably overreact to minor consequences to make you feel he is properly being corrected.

Get to know your child and understand what makes him tick. Knowing the right consequence is the key to changing his behavior.

Consequence can be tricky. I’ve worked with many parents fine tuning my parenting methods and learning what works and what doesn’t. I have created a video that shows you the most common mistake make by parents. Don’t fall into this same trap. It can mean the difference between respectful children and children who rule the household.

My free video is available at http://ccparenting.com/discipline.html You’ll discover that using effective consequences is the parenting tool that works the best when disciplining teenagers.

Going back to school is a hectic time and sometimes it’s easy to forget some really basic items when your cart is full and your mind is busy. The following is a back to school checklist for every busy parent out there who needs help remembering what their child needs to go back to school.

School supplies.
Your school district, or teacher should have provided a list of the items your child needs as far as school supplies goes. In elementary school it usually includes things like pencils, notebooks, binders, erasers, crayons, etc. In high school it might be a graphing calculator, or a Spanish-English dictionary. Because every class and school district has different requirements for school supplies, remember that you need to get the list from your school and get everything on it.

Backpack.
A backpack or book bag of some type is the best way for your child to carry of their books and supplies to school. This backpack needs to serve three purposes. One, it has to be large enough to carry all of their stuff. Two, it has to be stylish enough that they feel cool when they use it. Three, make sure it is supportive enough to protect their back. Look for one that is the right size for their frame, and that has a strap that can be buckled across the chest to help distribute weight better.

Water bottle.
Staying hydrated is important for proper brain function, and for the body. So, help your child find a suitable water bottle that fits their personality and style, and keeps them hydrated all day long.

Clothes.
Back to school is a great time to go through your childs wardrobe and get rid of anything they no longer use. To a parent shopping for back to school clothes is typically purely functional, but to a child the outfits they choose can mean the world to them in terms of their ability to make friends and their self confidence. Don’t forget that while you should buy them underwear and socks, it is also okay to buy them a few name brand shirts and fun accessories.

Shoes.
Shoes are especially important if your child walks to school everyday. Most schools have rules about what types of shoes are appropriate. Flip flops, and other open toe shoes may be restricted. Be sure to buy them some proper footwear that will last them the whole year, and that they will feel cool while wearing.

Gym wear.
Elementary schools do not generally require students to change for PE. In middle school and high school though they will probably need to change. If your child is enrolled in PE, be sure to buy them the proper clothing, this includes tennis shoes.

Lock.
Your child may have a locker that they need to provide their own lock for. Or, they may have a bike they need to lock to a bike stand. They may have a gym locker. Find out from your child’s school if they need to provide their own locks, or if the locks will be provided for them.

Transportation.
Make sure your child has proper transportation to and from school. If they are walking to school, be sure their footwear is suitable. If they want to ride their bike to school make sure it is in good working condition. If they ride the bus, make sure they know where the stop is, and the pick up time. If you are driving them, be sure to know the approved loading zones.

Immunizations.
There are various immunizations required for the different ages. Make sure your child has met the requirements for their age or grade, or has the exemption forms filled out.

This write up deals with addressing when is a good time to get the police involved in handling an oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) child’s violent outburst.

While involving the police doesn’t really help very much when you’re child is quite young, it does seem to have the desired effects when it comes to dealing with violent child behavior in older kids and teenagers.

A number of parents are hesitant in approaching the police and for a number of reasons. The main reason, though, remains to be the number of stories doing rounds about situations going out of hand when the police are involved, most of which are exaggerated or untrue anyway.

Some parents get the impression that their children could be unforgiving. Some are afraid of losing them, and some others think they might go away. A majority of the time, these fears are unjustifiable.

The police, on the whole, try and do their best in helping you, and spoiling the future of your child is not their aim.

The point being, at times it becomes necessary for a parent to involve the police in dealing with their child and his violent ODD child behavior.

This is how you should take it forward; if your ODD child is turning violent or abusive, if he is destroying any kind of property, and if you think you can no longer handle the situation; then the police should already be on the way, or called immediately.

This is where the situation is at a point where the child refuses to acknowledge the authority that his parents command. This is the point where involving the police can help because their voice will have to be heard.

Any form of abuse and destruction should not be let off easily. If a child indulges in violence and is not corrected in a timely manner, possibilities of him having a life linked to crime definitely increase.

Upon turning eighteen and becoming an adult legally, unlawful things that a person does can land him in serious trouble.

Parenting a violent child is tough. You should know that the authorities that get involved are not out for your child’s blood and actually try to help.

Besides trying to help your child, they also try and help you get in control again. They can also try and help financially, and help get all the support systems working.

But this changes when the child celebrates his eighteenth birthday. Why? Because the child then ceases to be a child and is tried through the penal system that serves adults.

This makes it important to try and seek help as early as possible, especially if your child is taking a turn for the worse, causing destruction, indulging in violent activities, or getting involved in uncompromising situations.

Help should be given long before your child’s eighteenth birthday.

The main reason behind this is that after that point, any unlawful activity can come with stern punishments. Once on this path, a lifelong battle with crime cannot be ruled out, especially if help doesn’t come in the formative years.

Often times, a run in with the police when your child is in his early teen years will be the only thing that will convince him to straighten out. And yes, in these cases, help can be the police.

In a number of scenarios, police involvement becomes necessary. The police, I’ll have you know, do try helping.

If you are wary that things might take an ugly turn and get out of your control… thinking about involving the police at an earlier stage (when the situation is still under control) is definitely recommended. This should be on your parenting agenda. Also, getting in touch with local juvenile organizations can also be very helpful.

If you think you might need police involvement, planning it in advance is always better than waiting for an ‘emergency’ situation to erupt. You can always try and foresee any violent child behavior and plan accordingly.

Also, if you’re raising an ODD child, trying to keep a check on the future is a good idea. Knowing what alternatives can be followed is also good.

Parenting a violent child becomes a bit easier when you know in the back of your mind that the police can serve as a back up. Just the confidence that comes with this knowledge can actually avoid police involvement at times.

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